No, you don’t have to ‘love yourself’ before being in a relationship Self-help Hooey topic #1 - myths from pop psychology

Self-help Hooey - love yourself

I’m not against self-help literature.  I’m a shrink, so I’m all for it.  There are a few fashionable self-help myths, though, that drive me up the wall because they are not only nonsensical, but it’s actually cruel to lead others to believe in them.

So I’m creating a series of Self-help Hooey posts that expose and put right some of this silliness.  I hope to make you feel a whole heap better about yourself along the way, and equip you with much better strategies.

We’re going to start with these two doozies…   Read more…

Can dating give you Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)? Is Dating-Induced PTSD really a thing?

Dating-Induced PTSD

My last article about Donald Trump drew an interesting response from a reader.  She was experiencing Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) after a nasty romantic run-in with a narcissist, and subsequently witnessing Trump’s behaviour was triggering her symptoms…

I’ve often suspected that romantic catastrophes can produce the gamut of PTSD-like symptoms.  I’ve seen it in my clients, and I’ve experienced it myself.  Yet we don’t seem to talk about it in those terms.  Why not?  Read more…

If we bag Trump, are we being mean to someone with psychological problems? And should the presidency have mental health selection criteria, like other jobs?

Donald Trump

Say what?!  This was a real question posed to me recently, while the USA’s 2016 presidential campaign was hitting peak insanity.

The questioner, in a (fleeting) moment of sympathy for what he interpreted as front and centre mental health issues in Donald Trump, contemplated whether he was, therefore, being unkind by condemning his behaviour…

Let’s look at it this way instead:  If the US Presidency were a regular job.  Before inviting candidates to apply for a job, Occupational Psychologists draw up application criteriaRead more…