Reforming the entitled victim

Victim mentality

Stuck in a disempowering victim mindset?  Feel like people are working against you or not giving you the support you want?  Or dealing with someone like this?

This remarkably wise advice from Shrink Wrap guest writer Tana Saler could be exactly what you need.

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Why your stress response can feel like it’s hijacking your personality, and what to do about it

Do you ever feel stressed, anxious, angry or shutdown?  Or perhaps you have physical ailments that you suspect are stress-related.

Well, it could be your Vagus Nerve.  This article teaches you how to be a better steward of your mind-body, informed by Stephen PorgesPolyvagal Theory.

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Things are looking up

I returned from walking my dog the other day in such an uplifted, joyous state that it took me by surprise.  I realised I had unconsciously been applying three techniques that build positive, relaxed mood, pretty much on demand.

Here they are, so you can use them too.  Read more…

Six tips for staying sane and happy as a business owner

The Bank of Queensland have been talking with me recently about the unique stresses of owning a small or medium business, and what to do about them.

They commissioned research into this topic, resulting in the fascinating Business Balance Report.  It reveals shockingly high levels of depression, anxiety and stress among Australian business owners.

So I gave them some tips for staying sane and happy while running a business.  Read more…

You should just let your anger out (or not)

If you are prone to angry feelings, which is the better strategy?  Let it out, or hold it in?

The answer is neither, because there’s a far superior option. It’s much more effective than that old favourite “You must releeeease your anger” – usually by pummelling a pillow, taking a boxing class, or sealing your doors and windows and yelling at the top of your lungs.

Welcome to the second post in the Self-help Hooey series that myth-busts some of the more damaging beliefs of popular psychology.  Read more…